Reflections
Short reflections on attachment, emotional neglect, belonging, authenticity, sense of self, choosing a therapist, therapeutic fit, trust, parts work, emotions, the body, nervous system safety, chronic pain and the therapeutic process.
A reflection on childhood emotional neglect, unmet attachment needs, belonging, authenticity, shame and how protective strategies can shape our sense of self into adulthood, and how IFS can help create more secure internal connection and greater Self-led choice.
Read moreA reflection on choosing a therapist from limited information, what a profile can and cannot tell us, and how relational fit only really emerges when we meet the person.
Read moreA reflection on bungee jumping, trust, nervous system activation and what it can mean to let go without giving up our agency.
Read moreA reflection on how vulnerability is not the only marker of therapeutic fit, and what self-editing, monitoring, playfulness and spontaneity can reveal about who we become in therapy.
Read moreA reflection on meaningful change, responsive pacing, focused therapy, accessibility and why the number of sessions does not always tell us how deep the work can go.
Read moreA reflection on embodied safety, what the body can remember, and how experiences of steadiness in therapy can become an internal resource.
Read moreA reflection on how unspoken expectations can become resentment, how conflict cycles form, and how shame, perfectionism and accountability can shape meaningful repair.
Read moreA reflection on what happened when pain training activated a hypochondriac protector, and how PRT, IFS, humour and somatic tracking ended up working together.
Read moreA reflection on what can happen when trying harder stops helping, why perfectionism can make us less flexible, and what might sit underneath the pressure to get things right.
Read moreA reflection on why people-pleasing can happen automatically, how it can show up in everyday life, and how IFS approaches it with curiosity rather than criticism.
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