Protective parts
Managers
Some parts work proactively to keep things stable, showing up as perfectionism, overthinking, or staying busy.
A compassionate way of understanding your inner world
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
Developed by Richard Schwartz, IFS understands the mind as made up of different “parts,” each with its own perspective and way of responding.
A central idea is that there are no bad parts. Even patterns that feel unhelpful or overwhelming are understood as having a protective intention.
I offer this way of working online in English to adults across Switzerland and the UK.
Understanding Your Inner System
Different parts may respond in different ways, often in an effort to protect you or help you cope.
The inner critic
The people pleaser
The conflict avoider
The perfectionist
The overthinker
The fixer
Self
clarity, curiosity and care
Protective parts
Firefighters
Others react when something feels too much, perhaps through shutting down, numbing, scrolling, or seeking quick relief.
Inner leadership
The Self
IFS also describes a steady, grounded aspect of you called the “Self,” like the sun behind clouds, still present even when it is hard to feel.
Clarity, curiosity and care
Working with Your Parts
IFS involves approaching different parts of yourself with curiosity rather than judgement, including parts that may show up through people-pleasing, perfectionism, resistance or other ways of trying to keep you safe.
Rather than trying to get rid of parts or push past resistance, we explore what is happening. What seems to be getting in the way can itself become part of the work, helping us understand what a protective part fears might happen and what it is trying to protect. Working in this way can help protective parts feel respected and create space for deeper feelings and experiences to emerge.
How This Shows Up in Therapy
Therapy can help you access this grounded, compassionate presence more consistently. As parts feel understood rather than judged or pushed away, they may soften, creating more balance, flexibility and choice in how you respond.
This way of working creates space to explore your inner world without judgement or pressure.
A personal reflection
In this reflection, I look at people-pleasing through an IFS lens, including what a protective part may be trying to prevent and what can change when we become curious about it instead of trying to get rid of it.
Read: People-Pleasing and How IFS Can HelpCurious Whether IFS Might Support You?
If you'd like to explore whether this way of working might support you, you're welcome to get in touch.
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